A part taken from an article "Girl's Guide"~
......Men and Women cannot sustain an intimate friendship without one or the other harboring romantic expectations. She(an expert) therefore recommends that men and women avoid being intimate friends outside of courtship and marriage. Companions, she says, generally spend less than two hours together a week. When a man indicates he would like to see the woman more than that, but claims they are “just friends,” he sends a mixed message.
I (the writer) have recently observed several non-dating relationships that seem to fall into the “intimate friends” category. In every case, it is the woman who is paying the price emotionally. Why? When a guy starts investing his heart, he can do something about it by making a move. And if the girl rejects him, the friendship ends or changes significantly. A woman, however, can hang on in this kind of relationship indefinitely, hoping the guy will eventually share her feelings. She makes herself available to him as a “friend,” all the while hoping the friendship will blossom into something more.
A woman should not assume that a guy friend she’s spending time with is: a) just too shy to make a move; b) thinking she’s the woman of his dreams but the timing isn’t right; c) in denial of God’s will that they be together...............
